Re-entering the dating world as a single dad after a separation or divorce can be confusing and quite frankly, exhausting. Every man needs a good woman by his side; one with exceptional qualities that qualify for the coveted wife material. More importantly she may become the stepmother of your kids. Here are a few qualities to look for in a women worth dating.
1. She supports your goals
Contrary to what most people think, men do not prefer to date weak women. Having a strong woman by your side who pursues her own goals and is not 100% dependent on you is a sexy trait. Additionally, this type of woman will keep you motivated.
A weak lady often tends to forgo her goals and merely prioritize the goals of their partner; they tend to co-opt them completely. Look for a lady that can have a healthy combination of personal goals and goals that you can both pursue together.
2. Has a positive outlook
Is the lady a glass half full or a glass half empty type of person? Negative people can be toxic and not ideal for a healthy long-term relationship. This is because we tend to take on the negativity of the people we spend most of the time with. So no Debbie Downer here!
3. She is smarter than you
Make sure the woman you are planning to commit to is intelligent. Ideally, she should be smarter than you because a smart lady will protect you from yourself. Furthermore, an intelligent partner never stops challenging you intellectually. There is no better buffer than intelligence.
4. She is honest
We all make mistakes and bad decisions. It is essential to have a partner who will tell you when you are wrong and help get you back on track. Sort of a Devil’s Advocate who challenges you as an uncommitted opponent to help make you make sure you are making the right decisions.
5. She has a great relationship with her family
If you want to know what your partner will be like in 20 years, look at her parents. If you want to know how she’ll treat you and your kids in 20 years, look at how she treats and interacts with her parents. Time will tell, so does the present!
6. She is kind
Kindness goes a long way. The key to a long and happy relationship is kindness and generosity. A woman with a kind and gentle heart not only cares about herself but the mental, emotional, and physical well-being of those around her.
7. She is calm
Disagreements are an inevitable part of all relationships. Scope out how she deals with disagreements; does she remain calm and helps calm you down as well or does she flip out and leaves no room for making up after?
8. She’s accepting of your flaws
Most relationships fail because there is a consistency of one partner always criticizing the other. Look for a strong woman who can accept you without continually trying to change you. An optimistic partner can change how you view yourself. Fall in love with a woman who sees the world as half full.
9. She is willing to be your side-kick
Your potential partner should be willing to do spontaneous and foolish things with you. A study conducted at the University of Michigan showed that couples that do more leisure time activities together tend to have better marital qualities.
10. She has her own life
You want to find someone who has her own hobbies and her own friends. It is okay to want your own space and privacy every once in a while. Look for someone who does not define herself by a relationship; someone who is okay spending a day apart without causing a fit or blowing up your phone every hour. we are men after all, don’t forget your friends! Making sure she fits in with your friends also goes a long way for avoiding conflicts in your personal life in the future.
11. She lets things go
Forgiveness is the foundation of a healthy relationship. No one is perfect and at some point in the relationship, you or she will inadvertently do something that hurts your partner. Your partner should not bear grudges.
12. She laughs at your jokes
Laughter is the soul’s daily medication. We are all looking for someone who we can laugh with. Your potential woman should be able to find humor and happiness in the little things. Find someone who actually laughs at your jokes.
13. She has a positive aura
Life is a lot easier if you have someone who shines in the public. People with open hearts are more attractive and easier to gravitate towards as opposed to ice-queens. This quality is especially important if you plan to introduce her to your children.
14. She can cook
We all know the path to landing a man is through his stomach. Apart from being able to boil an egg, look for a woman who has mastered the art of preparing meals that are healthy and delicious. This way, you can rest assured knowing your kids will be well fed regardless.
15. She compromises
A relationship can only work if both parties are willing to compromise. Most women lack this trait unfortunately but if you find someone who compromises, hold on to her dearly.
Relationships are hard on their own, and for a single dad, they are even more difficult. There are many great women out there and it is up to you to find someone with exceptional personal traits.
What other qualities do you look for in a potential partner? I know we all have our own personal qualities we look for that differ from others!
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